By R.K. Garg
Though it is tough topic to discuss and even more difficult to convince anyone but it is topic which needs a very exposed discussion at all level of society. We have often discussed reasons of Suicidal attempts and held many things /issues responsible for such social crime against the nature .Without discussion this may sound true but that is not the case .If we want to and we are little honest with ourselves than it is the person who attempts suicide is most responsible for this behaviour and should be tried for but we must we aware of circumstances which create reasons for attempt.
We have changed a lot in the last many years and in fact if we take 25 years for one generation than we have changed a lot in last two generations We have been a social person and we used to be easy person discussing the issues very frankly with almost all.Our world was small ,communication in between was not very fast ,no mobile was available but as per our mind we used to discuss all issues to almost every person as there was nothing secret.
The concept of community participation was very strong. We never kept anything our minds or heart and there was no deposit in our sub conscious mind. We all believed in entire universe being our own but in the last few years we have quantitative increase in our relations, now we have thousands of persons stored in our Mobiles and our friend list is so big that some times even we do not know many. Our Ideas are spread over entire world and we think that entire world is our but that is not the case.
Test it once and you will find that large numbers will like but only half a dozen will comment and only one at the max two will ask out wellbeing. So our world is wide but we have reduced our relations and we are confined to ourselves so much that relations amongst the family members are also becoming very poor.
So we have large number of ideas, we have many formal friends but we are not able to express ourselves even to our own family members as everybody is busy in their own world which never cross checks other’s life and continue to keep deposits in our mind and this excessive keeping creates depression. But we are not making any effort to learn and make relations better.
With the increase in Commercialisation of everything and economic reforms in last three decades the money matters have surpassed personal relations. Now everything is weighed in money. In fact, money has replaced relations many a times. Under such circumstances there is no place for emotions and discussion are far away. The commercialisation has increased quantum of money and world has created better facilities for all. With increased money power all parents are providing better education better opportunities to their children and resultantly they are more into making all sorts of development in life.With the increase in Commercialisation of everything and economic reforms in last three decades the money matters have surpassed personal relations. Now everything is weighed in money. In fact, money has replaced relations many a times. Under such circumstances there is no place for emotions and discussion are far away. The commercialisation has increased quantum of money and world has created better facilities for all. With increased money power all parents are providing better education better opportunities to their children and resultantly they are more into making all sorts of development in life.
They want to get everything fast and in this run the relations are left behind with no one to fend. This 20th Century has further aggravated the situation and we are more acquainted with words like Isolation, quarantine, containment area, Distancing etc.
These are not merely words but our mental state and lives since long. Are not we living in isolation already by keeping us quarantine in our own shells? If at all we are out of our quarantine we throw ourselves in containment area. We keep so perfect distance that we do not allow others in our mind. This entire isolation is creating deposits in our mind and we are falling prey to depression.
Creating a stigma for a person making fatal attempt is not aim of this discussion. There is no dearth of literature on suicide which have world over discussed the topic but main issue is to reach to the person who is affected by circumstances and makes an attempt. It is responsibility of entire society to save human being and it is responsibility of family members to take care all its family members.
Slight change in behaviour should be noticed and discussed amongst family members and entire process needs to be channelized. Of Course, there are helplines but main concern is to help the person who does not reach a helpline. Channelizing the energies needs to be done and here comes need to discuss the spiritual aspect also.
The persons make suicide attempt because they are depressed, confused and low within. In these circumstances
Counselling can be useful and counselling can be made better by introducing the spirituality which boosts our morale and behaviour and it is psychologically accepted that once a confused or depressed person in engaged in some dialogue he will certainly not make any attempt. Let us try to understand, reduce isolation and minimise distancing and make attempt to save lives. (R. K. Garg, is an RTI activist in Chandigarh)